Posted: April 09, 2018 15:15 by admin
Topics: Parenting

Being a parent is the most difficult job one will ever have. The ways in which we parent and the behaviors we exhibit have a significant effect on children’s behavior, how well adjusted they are and how well they navigate through life. How can you raise a happy, responsible, and productive members of society?

Four Recognized Parenting Styles

  • Authoritative - Regarded as the most effective parenting style, these parents have high expectations for their children met with understanding and support. Implementing structure, expectations, and consequences all while offering an open line of communication without judgment or reprimand. This parenting style nearly always sounds like “What do you think about the situation? or How do you think the problem should be solved?”
 
  • Neglectful - Neglectful parenting can be a harmful parenting style where parents spend long periods of time physically or emotionally away from their child, not caring or knowing about their child’s emotional and/or physical needs. This parenting style nearly always sounds like (assuming they are talking “to” their child), “What? I didn’t even know you were into that” or “What? I didn’t know you were even here.” This parenting style can be damaging since the children can have a difficult time forming relationships with other people.”
 
  • Permissive - Indulgent and lenient parents are loving and nurturing. Their permissiveness, lack of structure and inconsistent rules provide a lifestyle in which children grow up with little self-control, self-discipline, confidence, and poor academic success. This parenting style often sounds like, “I just want them to like me” or “I want them to be friends with me.”
 
  • Authoritarian - Strict and demanding parents have firm rules with little balance. Children must follow the rules set in place and here is no open communication. This parenting style nearly always sounds like “Do this this way now” or “Because I said so.”

Eight Behaviors That Hold Children Back
 
  1. Never letting a child fail - Discouraging a child from trying new things in order to protect them from failing. Failing is a part of life and learning how to deal with failure will help a child later in life.
  2. Creating a dependent child – Doing things for a child that the child is capable of doing him/herself prevents the child from becoming an interdependent adult.
  3. Praising a child too much – Praising every little move a child makes gives them a false sense of confidence. Reserve praise for accomplishments that a child masters.
  4. Too much alone time– Not encouraging friendships prevents a child from having a social support system to rely on if necessary.
  5. Being too involved – “Helicoptering” leads a child to distrust their own abilities and to take fewer risks.
  6. Discipline based on fear – Harsh and overly strict parenting leads to emotional difficulties.
  7. One-way communication – Not permitting open and honest two-way discussions about a child’s worries and how to handle them prevents a child from learning how to manage negative emotions and solve problems.
  8. Not doing what you say – Not practicing what you preach sends mixed messages to the child about what is right.


FAMILY PSYCH PARENTING BEHAVIORS.jpegParenting Behaviors That Lead To Children’s Success

Consistency and consequences – Positive consequences encourage desirable behaviors. Negative consequences decrease specific undesirable behaviors. Logical and natural consequences can be very effective. Without consistency, consequences are meaningless. This is the #1 Parenting Behavior that was shared with me from a friend when I became a new parent and I stuck with it.

Develop clear communication – Establish clear expectations and communicate them clearly to children. Holding weekly family meetings is a good time to review the expectations and discuss any concerns. A child cannot meet your expectations if they don’t know or pretend not to know them.

Stay calm! – Before giving any negative consequences (or positive consequences), ensure you are calm and know your limits if the child pushes back.

Effective praising – Praise is nourishment and powerful when sincere. Giving realistic and authentic praise helps your child grow emotionally and builds self-esteem.

Be a role model – Model positive behavior. Every time you show your child what doing the right thing looks like, the better the chances they will adopt these behaviors themselves. Warning:  This is the most difficult parenting behavior to do and to do it consistently.

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Parenting Behaviors West Palm Beach

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